When someone needs help from his family ,there are some big differences between: 1.what he really needs 2.what he desires in his mind 3.what he’s asking from the family and 4.what the others think that he deserves 5.what the others are able to do for him
So there are 5X4 =20 possible conflictual situations and nobody will be satisfied with the help that he obtained from the family,or with the gratitude of the helped person.